The Big Bright Future

Since recently, I've been getting a little panicky about the future. Like if I'll get a good job, if I'll be rich or middle income, if I'll have this house of my dreams, if I'll have a great husband and family, if I'll be a good wife and mom, if my kids will have everything they want.

I guess it's because I have in 3 semesters I will officially be kicked out of my momma's nest and be on my own. It's like the money I make for my job will be for my survival and not for saving and shopping :-) Don't get me wrong, I still make money and I like to think I'm responsible with it, and I have a little bit of a firm grasp on reality, but it's nice to know that I have a soft place to land if things don't work out.

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Also, I have this desire to have not only an awesome job, but to also do something on the side that'll bring me money and that I'm totally passionate about. I don't think it's realistic to rely on being employed in the long run, a side haussle is important too.

There are honestly so many things to know and so many decisions to be made, and I want to sort everything out one at a time, because I know if IU wait till then I'll be overwhelmed. Honestly, I have no idea how people get through life without believing in God, because I cannot live with this anxiety of my life being in my hands. I could honestly go crazy.

How did you guys find the transition from being sheltered college kid to total independence?


xx
Raha

GIVEAWAY!!!!!

Have you guys heard of MyMemories? I seriously cannot get enough of this. I'm not really the artsy, creative types, but this  makes it a lot easier. I don't usually put up pics of mine on the blog, but this is seriously changing my mind, so all next week I'm going to be putting up random pics in my scrapbooks so you guys see what I'm talking about.

All I needed was 10 minutes.

1. Choose an embellishment or paper
2. You can start with a blank page, but like I said, I'm not really artsy so I went with a template
3. Add your pictures, and voila! All done.


You can see some creations here

So, two things I'm going to do thanks to the lovely people at My Memories

As a special for all of my special readers, I'm giving you a Share the Memories code that provides a $10 discount off the purchase of the My Memories Suite Scrapbook software and a $10 coupon for the MyMemories.com store - $20 value!) All you have to do is click this link HERE or (http://www.mymemories.com/digital_scrapbooking_software)and enter the code below

STMMMS23079

What's a giveaway post, without a giveaway??? In addition to the discount you could get with the code above, I'm also giving a lucky winner a free download of  the My Memories Suite, so you could keep adding pictures to your scrap books and making new scrap books for every major and minor photo sesh you have. 

All you have to do is:

1.  Go to the My Memories site and choose their favorite digital paper pack or layout. 
2.  Leave a comment on my blog telling me which ones you like.
3.  For extra chances to win, follow MyMemories on Facebook, Twitter or their blog and let me know on a separate comment. 
4. Follow me on twitter, that's @MissRaha or like my Facebook Page, or follow my blog, again let me know on a separate comment.


Have Fun!!




xx
Raha

The T-Word

I'm a research girl. Like, if I have a problem, I will Google and read the hell out of it. So, lately I've been reading a lot about trust. Love and sweetness is all good in a relationship, but definitely trust is the backbone of any relationship.

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So, here are some tips I found about building trust in a relationship

1. Be truthful, don't lie about the small stuff, it adds up

2. Be reliable, let your actions match your words

3. Set boundaries

4. Be trusting, innocent until proven guilty

5. Be fair, don't be imposing, jealous or naggy

6. Be trustworthy, treat your lovvah (hehehe) like you would want to be treated

7. Be calm, be a rock that can be leaned on

8.Talk about everything



Most importantly,

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xx

Raha

Team Player

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I will be the first to admit, I was not a team player. I felt I had valid reasons. I could work faster alone, I didn;t have to compromise or take direction, I could just be. I hate that version of myself, honestly, I doin;t know how people could stand me then. I was proud and arrogant.

Right now, I'm proud to say I am a team player. It's simply a matter of realizing confidence doesn't relate to arrigance. There are two mistakes people make when it comes to being in a team. 

One is, thinking you're always right and not wanting to listen to the opinions of others. When this happens, you just have to take a minute and consider someone's plan or perspective and not jump down their throat. This was me, like if we had group discussions for an assignment, I would skip the meetings and email work that I'd done single-handedly.

Two is, not putting yourself out there enough because you feel like your ideas will be shot down. This is also me at points. The best way to handle this, is to come heavily prepared, if you truly believe something should be done in a certain way to be successful, present, defend and do it.

I think those are the biggest lessons I've learnt this week.

Any suggestions?

xx 

Raha

College Pancakes

Hey Guys,

Yesterday I saw some pancakes on TV and had a crazy craving, only thing is I only had flour in my little pantry. No eggs, no milk, nothing else that ordinarily goes into pancakes. So, I headed to the shops to buy some baking powder/soda (don't ask me why I didn't just buy milk and eggs as well)

Anyway, as a college student living in a tiny apartment with no fridge and little disposable income, I'm on the search to find ways to make home-cooked classics on the cheap, and with ingredients that will keep relatively well, fridgeless. Introducing my first in this line of recipes.....

COLLEGE PANCAKES

• 1 Cup White Baking Flour
• ¾ Cup Water
• 3 Tablespoons Sugar
• ½ Teaspoon Baking Soda
• 2 Teaspoons Baking Powder
• ¼ Teaspoon Salt
• 1 ½ Tablespoons Margarine
• 1 Teaspoon Vanilla Extract

1. 1.       Sift all the dry ingredients together, all except the sugar. It makes the pancakes airy and soft.
2. 2.       Add the sugar.
3. 3.       Add vanilla and margarine and half the water and whisk together.
4. 4.       Gradually add the rest of the water until thick, but pouring consistency.
5. 5.       Heat frying pan, under high heat but reduce it to medium-low. I used margarine, but you could use whatever your heart desires.

N.B Make sure you oil the pan for each pancake, they will get stuck if you don’t.

N.B These pancakes are really soft and fluffy and will break apart if you make them too big.

Enjoy!

xx 

Raha

fear

One thought has been on my mind for the past two days. I can deal with a lot, but I don’t know how I can deal with losing a loved one to a terrorist or a murderer. Knowing that my loved one was killed as a part of someone else’s cause that we had nothing to do with. Knowing that my loved one is gone while the person who killed them is walking the streets.

I’ve dealt with death before, but I just can’t deal with that sort of pain, or rather anger. What emotion do you even choose for that? Do I grieve; do I give in to the anger?

I just heard on the news that a grenade went off at O.T.C. buss terminus. I pass by there every day. People I know walk there. One person dead, more than 10 rushed to hospital. I am happy and grateful that I haven’t heard any bad news. But there are hundreds of people who by the end of this night will have.

People going about their days, trying to rush home. And these heinous acts of terror that none of us want to be a part of got in the way.

I can’t deal. Tonight I’m teary eyed and scared.

thoughts

As I’ve grown up, mostly over the past year or so, all I’ve wanted or searched for is contentment. You know those moments when you’re full and healthy and you almost want to take a picture of that moment and frame it so you always remember how it felt.

I was talking to my sister a couple of days ago and she told me how when she met her husband, she didn’t want to deal with any of the drama that came with her past relationships and she didn’t feel the need to try so hard.

I’ve always wanted to have that. A relationship where you don’t have to constantly police your partner. Worried about where they are, what they’re doing, who they’re with. It’s a hell of a scary thing trusting someone with your heart. Personally, my biggest fear is being blind-sided, you know what I mean, being happy and in love and then suddenly the other person hates you, and leaves you for no apparent reason.

That’s what I’m trying to do, or to be like from now on. Trust that whoever I’m going out with knows as much as I do how lucky we are to have found each other, and appreciates not only that fact, but also appreciates me.

Ideally. I think I have a lot of love in my heart and I’d want to give all that away…there’s always part of you that doesn’t want to give 100% because it’s too much to get hurt when you’ve given it you’re all.

It’s crazy. The world is insane and I wish love didn’t have to be complicated as well.