Showing posts with label Beauty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Beauty. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Sex, Media & Feminism - My Open Letter to Beyonce

Dear Bey,

I jumped off your bandwagon.

Before any of your bees come a stingin' in reply to my post, hear me out.

I was sorta cool with the whole, "I transform into another person, and this other being comes out of me and I named her Sasha Fierce". I defended you against all the "Illuminati" drama that surrounded you after watching your documentary and seeing how many times you attributed your success to God. Now though, it's just not worth it to me.

Someone on my Instagram posted a video on their feed from one of your concerts on this tour. Crazy costumes aside, you basically wiggled and showed everything plus the kitchen sink in front of HD cameras for all the world to see. It's no longer about clever lyrics or enviable choreography in high heels, now it's string undies - and I mean string - and barely covered behinds. I'm all for sexiness and I applaud you totally for making women around the world feel sexy and confident no matter what the shape of their bodies or color of their skin is. You have done a great thing for women, for me personally as a black woman. But honestly, there has to be a line drawn somewhere and you've crossed it.

This whole new album and the explicit videos, I just don't get it. I mean, how can this be healthy for anyone or any marriage. You've got it. You're a game changer. All these "PYT's" coming up are just trying to live up to you and your talent and you are SO talented. You are probably one of the best vocal talents of our generation and a songwriting genius. You are a voice honored and respected by many and so many people look up to you. 

You added this line to feminist Chimamanda Adichie's TEDx talk which wasn't in the original speech "We teach girls that they should not be sexual beings in the way that boys are". And boldly declared your FEMINIST stance. Well now, we ought to be teaching our boys not to be sexual beings in the way that women are because if we go on like this, with absolutely nothing left to the imagination, what sort of world are we heading into?

Feminism in my humble view is about defining, establishing and defending equal rights between men and women. Catchy anthems won't be enough to raise the standards if you don't model them in your own life. Catchy anthems will fade away but what you show through your life, that's what people will remember. You can't just talk a good game Bey, you gotta actually be.



You are setting a standard I can't live down to. I don't think men are going to be performing naked anytime soon and while they get more suave and sophisticated in their suits and ties and designer labels for their performances, you inspire us to keep degrading ourselves and becoming objects men ogle and view as sex symbols rather than people. The complete antithesis of feminism.

I mean have you seen Amber Rose's outfit to the 2014 VMA's? Or Rihanna's sheer everywhere dresses? Don't! This industry now is 70% porn, 20% marketing and 10% explicit music. It's hard to live in a world like that, it's enough of a battle to fight for purity by setting up filters on my computer, but this is People magazine, Youtube & every channel on TV.

Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, everyone, I don't need to know what goes on in your bedrooms, come on!

I get it. Your definition of feminism as confidence in your sexuality and owning it. By all means, own it! Don't give it away on the media silver platter. That would speak volumes louder for feminism than pin up posters in man caves and teenage boys bedrooms. In the same breath I would warn that placing your confidence on something as wavering as how tight and right your body is and many times you can wind, grind and twerk per minute is a very bad idea.

Being a woman in a man's world isn't just about equal wages, it's about respect. More than that it's about honor and value. I don't care if women top the charts or we get the promotions just because we are women. I care about being valued and honored and respected first because I am a person and second and most importantly because God made me a gifted woman and that is a pretty awesome thing.

I have no right to speak into your life, you are probably never going to know I exist, but I do respect the voice and position you have over this generation, and I pray that somehow the tides will shift and this public sexual craze will stop being how you or the rest of us are defined.

Once A Fan,






Thursday, August 21, 2014

Endless Ocean by Jonathan David Helser


In the beginning
You were singing
In the end you will still be
Singing over me
In this moment
You're right beside me
Everywhere you're in the air that I breathe

You are an endless ocean, bottom less sea
You are an endless ocean, bottom less sea

In my sin
You kept loving
Theres no end to your forgiveness and mercy
Every morning 
You keep coming
The waves of your affection
They keep washing over me

You are an endless ocean, bottom less sea
You are an endless ocean, bottom less sea

Al those angels
They are swimming in this ocean and they still can find no shore
Day and night night and day they keep seeing new sides of your face

You are an endless ocean, bottom less sea
You are an endless ocean, bottom less sea 

Oooh, ooh, oooh, oooh

There's no end to the affection you have for me
There's no end to the affection you have for me

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Hair {on the} Brain / New Hair Regimen




As you might have guessed, this blog is all about....hurr!
Before this year, I had all but given up on my hair. I didn't see my hair ever growing beyond a certain length and I chalked it down to genetics. At least up until my sister (who used to commiserate with me over our shared hair woes) cut her hair a year ago and it grew back longer than mine, which rules out genetics.


All My Natural Frizzy Hair (No Make-Up...yayy for self esteem...not quite, but still) Glory :-)



So it all came down to hair - care. I realized I haven't really been putting much time or money or effort. This all changed when I saw this blog by Megan. She had absolutely gorgeous hair and she totally inspired me to put a little more effort in.

This is my new treatment/conditioning system, I add some natural oils to the Miadi treatments above and use do a 15 minute treat before deep conditioning for an hour.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE the ORS Replenishing Conditioner, it's the one thing that didn't make this whole hair process flop. The moisturizing lotion was all water and no oil/moisturizing properties at all. Same goes for the Motions Nourishing leave in conditioner This was hard to spray on and again it was water, I'd rather get a creamier leave in conditioner that makes you feel like you've actually used some product on your hair. (Update: The Motions Nourish Leave-in is actually GREAT as a detangler, it worked wonders, my hair which usually breaks quite a lot as I de-tangle, barely broke)

I tried to do the whole avoid heat and air-dry instead...with these products it was a little difficult {read frizzy} but I'm not stressing out about it too much because it was my 1st time. What I will change next time is probably to stay off of shampoo for a while and "conditioner-wash" because my hair is really dry.

Anyway, I'll keep you guys posted.



List of Characters (All Bought at Tuskys)
Castor Oil Ksh. 177
Coconut Oil Ksh. 61
Olive Oil Ksh. 77
Miss Africa Olive Oil Moisturiser Ksh. 175
ORS Olive Oil Replenishing Conditioner Ksh. 525
Miadi Treatments Ksh 225 each
Motions Nourishing Leave-in Conditioner Ksh 325

xx
Jo